What’s-his-face and the experience of humiliation

With the US election of 2016 just 7 days behind us, the prospect of President-elect What’s-his-face being our next president is one of the most depressing state of affairs I’ve ever encountered.

I’ve been trying to stay present with the emotions: anger, fear, disbelief, frustration, disgust. The fact that this person ran on a platform so antithetical to the Buddhist concepts of Right Intention, Right Speech, and Right Action suggests that we’re about to take a giant step backwards, collectively, from liberation towards suffering. The wind has completely left my sails. My stomach, throat, and breathing are all heavy. My face feels tension. My mind is racing between all of the awful statements that were made during the campaign, to all of the helpful agencies that will be disbanded, to all of the platform promises filled with hate and discrimination that will be enacted and all of the environmental damage that will be done as ignorant policies are unleashed on the land.

Along with all of this is a feeling of lethargy. While investigating this, I realized that there is another emotion that’s present, and calling it out has been helpful: I feel humiliated. I had to tease apart the difference between simply being embarrassed and feeling humiliated. If we drew a lottery and What’s-his-face won, then we’d be embarrassed about it. Knowing that this is something that was intentionally done to us, though, by individual’s choice and action – that moves the feeling from simple embarrassment to a sense of humiliation.

We as a nation have been humiliated – by (just fewer than!) half of the voters. They knowingly, willfully did this to all of us. They chose explicit hate, fear, and anger. And now the nation has to live with a known liar and scam artist, a cheating abusive husband, an ogling peeping tom beauty pageant owner, a litigious bastard of a business owner – the nation must humbly accept this man as our rightfully elected president. That’s humiliating. He will speak on my behalf on the international stage. He will make decisions on my behalf regarding the welfare of my family, my neighbors, and all the creatures of our planet – on the land and in the air and sea. His picture will hang in the post office or even in the principal’s office at my daughter’s school. That’s revolting. The fact that so many others chose him to play this role in my life feels – humiliating.

On reflection, this can only be the case in so far as I identify with being a citizen of this particular country. You can be sure I’ll be examining this identification, but I want to love our country. I do identify as an American and I want to be proud of who we are. Please note: I’m not always proud of everything we do, but I’ve been hopeful that we’re at least heading in the right direction, with a ‘one step back and two steps forward’ kind of trajectory. This just feels like an all-out retreat in the wrong direction towards so much sadness, so much unnecessary suffering. This is why people are struggling so badly, saying “he’s not my president” and dissociating themselves from their affiliation with the country. They are trying to find a way out of the humiliation.

Naming the emotions has helped. Recognizing the feeling of humiliation has helped. It doesn’t solve the underlying pain, but it is letting me see it more clearly, so I can sit with it. I’m trying to stay connected to the Dharma, sitting on my own, reading passages from teachers addressing the election, and sitting with others in my office (which, so far, has been the best response to all of the craziness).

Right now, things are like this: unpleasant feeling tones, confusion, uncertainty. Humiliation feels like this. Sadness feels like this. Breathing in; breathing out. Tension feels like this. Worry feels like this. Breathing in shallow, breathing out shallow. Feeling the body. Aware of the thinking mind, thinking, thinking, thinking. Right now, it is like this.

Good luck to all.

2 thoughts on “What’s-his-face and the experience of humiliation

  1. Dear Lost Soul,
    You are probably in the small area’s of the brain washing of the media. One must look into all the suffering that is currantly going on !! You must be thinking that unemployment is only 4.7 % over 20% because they don’t count certain people, or that the stock market is growing because we really have more the 1% growth. Become an independent and see , listen and understand where the media wants to take you, 80% of the real estate of the country went in a direction. What does this mean? It means that the our politians are not working for the people. 1.5 million are slipping into povety every year !! Going back wards? Not sure what you mean ? Obama care I pay more then ever for health care. Disaster , We subsidize works of large corporations billions of dollars while the corporations get wealthy , does one believe that this was going to change? Billiions in subsidizing large corporation works that can’t make enough to run a family. She was not qualified to be a president, she was pick to follow the orders of a vlolent group of anarchist. I don’t know if the media you listen to is informing one of all the violence that is going on down on the border or over the country. One must search for different news. Independent is indepenence .

    • Salvatore,

      We see things very differently. I appreciate you commenting. If you can’t see what I mean when I say I’m afraid of “going backward” in this country right now… I’m not sure how to even start that conversation. It’s so obvious to me that this man will take us in the wrong direction; that he seeks only to enrich himself and other billionaires; does not care about the environment, the poor, the rights enshrined in the Constitution, or the equality of all mankind or any other life on Earth. I see that you feel differently. I’m left unmoved.

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